Fun fact about me, there is a song playing in my head just about
24/7. Recently my life’s soundtrack has consisted
too frequently of Justin Timberlake’s new hit “Mirrors”. This song is really catchy and the Boyce Avenue
version is beautiful (as are all of their covers). The one line that keeps playing in my mind is, “I’m
looking right at the other half of me, the vacancy that sat in my heart is a space
that now you hold.” After about the
zillionth time this ran through my head I thought about how lame it is to wait
for someone to “complete” you.
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It is a common dream of young (and not so young) men and
women to find that special someone who “completes” them, their other half. On the surface this seems like a beautiful
and romantic notion, but if we look deeper it truly becomes distressing. I don’t want to spend an unknown portion of
my life feeling incomplete waiting for my life to begin. This is a mistake that I have certainly made
and still sometimes have trouble with. It
is so tempting to allow ourselves to put life on the back burner until we get a
boyfriend (or girlfriend if you are a fella).
If we choose to live in this state of waiting then we choose
to waste so much time that the LORD has given us as a gift. It is a daily struggle for me to see my
season of singlehood as a blessing but I made the decision to try. There are so many things a single person has
the opportunity to accomplish that is made much more difficult once a person is
in a committed relationship. We are
given the freedom and flexibility to truly commit ourselves to God and his will
for our lives without having to consider the effects it will have on a person
whose life is so closely linked with our own.
So no, I am no longer waiting for someone to come into my
life and complete me. I am living my life and praying for God to fulfill his
will in my life. It is still a struggle for me to not obsess over my future husband but it is a struggle I can handle. I have found who completes me.
I find wholeness in the LORD who created me and sustains me.
Do you believe in a person “completing” you? How are you spending your season of singlehood? What do you think of Justin’s song? (I
personally find it narcissistic but super catchy) Comments?
Questions? Suggestions? Drop me a line in the comments below!
I think being single is a blessing as much as being in a healthy relationship is! When you're single, you can focus more time on yourself and your relationship with God. You are able to spend time finding out who you are without the pressure of being in a relationship.
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